A requirement is for her not to have expectations for me to change in the way she would like me to be. For that she has God, in which she can find those desired qualities in their fulness. Just because we are together in a social contract, it doesn't mean she has the mission to educate me. So our relationship has better chances to function well as long as we accept each other as we are. I prefer someone who seeks happiness in her heart and not in me, or any other thing in this world. The world is as it is, with its good, bad and neutral things in it and it will never change.
I'm looking for someone with a flexible personality who adapts to the world and who doesn't expect the world to adapt to her. I'm looking for someone who is grateful for the gift of life God, the Superior Force, Mother Nature, the Upper-Thing, the Cosmic Energy (or by whatever name she wants to call it) gave her everyday and not have the mood of complain as a character trait. That will drain my energy.
I'm looking for someone who doesn't see my mother (whom I love very much) or my friends (whom I choose very carefully) as rivals who fight with her in having my exclusive attention but to see my mother as her own mother and to accept my friends. I'm looking for someone who is not touchy-feely with other men and who doesn't have a flirtatious and coquette personality. As to say, I look for someone who has consideration for my feelings and protects them. This is the logic in which I function. Of course it goes the other way around as well.
I'm not interested in her ex-boyfriend's or ex-husband's life and whatever happened between them, so I'm looking for someone who doesn't talk about that unless it's pertinent for some reason or another. I'm looking for someone who doesn't try to convert me in this way in some kind of emotional garbage can in which she spills all her frustration gathered up during her life till present. I'm looking for someone who is not superficial but who asks herself existential questions and who seeks the truth, goodness and self-improvement (not anecdotically but as a way of being). I'm looking for someone who is not nomophobic (I recently learned this word). That means addicted to her mobile phone, checking if she received a message, sending messages each five minutes, listening to music and playing games often... or she enters in panic when she forgot her mobile phone at home.
I'm looking for someone who dresses clean and elegant with expensive perfume in a safely small dose (or if not, just an antiperspirant will do) but not in a barby doll or play boy way, showing her forms and a lot of skin with a tone of cheap perfume on her. If she comes that way on our first date, let's say, trying to impress me, it will have the exact opposite effect... pop culture, vulgar strappy clothes like high heels with short skirt or tight pants with long boots really turn me off. I prefer natural beauty. I'm looking for someone who is seeking to show her value through her inner qualities as kindness and altruism and not showing off her body.
I prefer her not being any of the following "-ists": chauvinist, feminist, anarchist, communist, leftist, centrist, rightist, Islamist, extremist, nationalist, fascist, terrorist, capitalist, opportunist, racist, exhibitionist, sado-masochist, voyeurist, contrabandist, unionist, separatist, independentist, passivist, pacifist, paganist, atheist, polytheist, monotheist, creationist and/or evolutionist. What I mean by that is that I prefer her not to define herself in a certain rigid way or to have strong religious, political or philosophical convictions but to be open minded and acknowledge that the only thing of which we may be certain is that we don't know anything and that at the end of the day, we're nothing but a huge zero. Even about you, the only thing I can know is your art, the various social masks you're showing and you want me to see, like in a theater. The only one who has true access to yourself is you.
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