Girls: when it comes to dating and relationships, I stand by a simple rule, which is that if it's not mutually agreeable, then it's a no-go.
If I have any concerns about "if it's ok," I'm going to ask you if it is OK?
If you don't appreciate this, well I'm sorry.
From my perspective, I'm looking for an equal 50/50 partner - which to me means that what we do, requires her to agree to it - whatever it is. I ask the question and I get a yes or no answer: how easy is that. Rhetorical.
First dates to me, are the worst: they are no more than a chance to see if we like each other. I don't believe that first dates should be long drawn out affairs, in case either part does not wish to endure the pain - if you get my intent. If there are grounds for another date - a second date, then that's the time to make it more memorable.
I think that a first date should be simple: (always - and again, asking her if she is in agreement) something like brunch or lunch, somewhere very open, very public - for her safety and of course, so either party can leave, should that be the result. A brunch or lunch somewhere, is a great opportunity to communicate, perhaps if things are going well, to go for a walk/a stroll … If things go well, it's easy to see that there may be enough common ground for a second.
For the last time, I still believe that the first date should be decided by both parties and mutual agreement on what will occur.
I'm not into the old conventional role models that our parents lived by: forget that nonsense.
I'm not looking for a mommy figures, I'm not looking for a cook and dish washer, I'm not looking for a maid, I'm not looking for a stay at home wife to vacuum - I'm looking for my female equal: she has goals, she is working towards these goals and she is motivated.
I don't care about her net assets or her formal education, as long as she is out there doing her thing.
Life isn't easy any longer: it's expensive out there and not much comes for free.
It takes both partners to make it happen.
Respectfully, and please don't let this upset anyone: hey to each their own, but I'm not into the drugs thing and I strongly prefer a lady who doesn't smoke (tobacco). I very much prefer a lady who is thin and trim, who takes care of herself and who lives a healthy life style. Please, this is my preference: I respect everyone's right to live their own lives in the manner that suits them. I'm not trying to be mean or rude. Bless you all.
I do not expect perfection: I make mistakes, and assuredly she will make mistakes. Welcome to being human. Every relationship has it's ups and it's downs. I find this to be normal. Considering that we all have expectations of each other and sometimes life throws a real curve ball at us, such that we can be devastated. As long as at the end of the day, we come together …settle any problems - that's great.
I prefer my ideal mate to live in Europe or in Australia.