iwash

I am british born and bred, but I have been living in Germany for bloody donkey's years. I work as a freelance translator, which means I'm poor, whilst studying Art History with the Open University. I have a 13 year-old daughter, who lives with me every other week.

Like just about everyone else on the planet, I am a bundle of contradictions. I can appear reserved and austere but also ridiculously silly. I love having fun dancing and having a few drinks but I do not like 40-year-old teenagers. I am very passionate about a lot of things, but I have also learnt that viewing things more objectively often leads to better long-term results -- and tends to create less mess on the carpet. I am extremely loyal but not at all possessive. I can be incredibly polite and reserved, but also extremely brazen. I like to entertain the notion that I am amusing but I also recognise the difference between irony and sarcasm. I am extremely loving and romantic but I do not like formulaic expressions of any kind. I am usually self-deprecating but, on rare occasions, I can also be horribly full of myself. Oh god, I must sound awful! I like independent women who are capable of surprising me in some way.

Bad bits: I am over-sensitive, irritable and have some self-esteem issues...

Good bits: I am rather funny, believe it or not. I am willing to negotiate and compromise. I work very hard not to blame other people for my failings and I am quick to recognise it when my obsolete self-defense mechanism causes me to act like an offended 12 year-old. I do not find it necessary to be right all the time and I can apologise when I am wrong. I am open minded and relatively flexible. I try to be honest. I believe (at least theoretically) it is important to see the positives rather than dwell on the negatives.

In my spare time, if I ever get any, I like to sing and write songs, go to the cinema, read (mostly non-fiction these days) and think. I am looking for any kind of relationship for now.

I look forward to hearing from you.