Bhandhari1985

My boyfriend and I have an open relationship. We've been having a lot of fun for six months now. I love being with someone who understands that people can want to be independent and free and at the same time want to be spooned to sleep every night.

When we decided to give an open relationship a shot we set up ground rules: always use protection, don't bring other people back to our apartment, and, of course, just be honest with each other with what we're doing and with whom. Last night, he randomly mentioned that he thinks one of my friends is super hot, and for the the first time in six months, I felt really uncomfortable about him being with someone else. Until now, the other people we've been with have all been outside our friend circle.

I didn't tell him it bothered me because I panicked a little and brushed the whole conversation off. I wish we could go back to when we were setting up rules and add "no friends" to the list, even though it seems like that defeats the purpose of an open relationship a little bit. I don't know how to revisit this conversation to tell him that the idea of him casual dating with my friend makes me uncomfortable.